THE BLAME GAME
This happens to be the number one sport in the world, far outdistancing the popularity of futbol. With the 24-hour news-feed gone global, the choices seem endless. With so much blame to go around, where does a person begin?
The buck actually stops with the finger pointing in the mirror. It’s the classic case of denial and projection--the software that makes the world-go-round.
An important dynamic to understand in our Prodigal Parable is that the son viewed himself as having sinned for deciding to leave HOME on his little misadventure. This perception caused him to feel guilt, and, as guilt deserves punishment, the punishment must come from somewhere. Obviously the choice would be dad, since he is the one who has been slighted.
The birth of this spin-cycle gives rise to fear, the bedfellow of punishment. How could it not? We have now setup the classic case of guilt projecting punishment onto another, who we then must be feared--a great recipe for blame.
This, of course, gets extrapolated out onto the world stage where everyone harbors different flavors and degrees of guilt, represses and denies as much of the uncomfortable feeling as they can muster, and hurls it onto any unsuspecting recipient they can find.
The answer? Lower the finger.
Take stock of what is at play here. That which you see out there is merely a reflection of what is acknowledged within.
Begin by being kind to yourself, no matter how you are currently feeling. Cutting yourself some slack will greatly improve your day--every day. It is important to remember, the sin/guilt/fear carried around by the prodigal son carried no weight with the father when he returned home. By letting go of your baggage, you will also begin to lighten the load of those around you, thereby withdrawing your support for the blame game.
It’s not really that much fun anyway.
This happens to be the number one sport in the world, far outdistancing the popularity of futbol. With the 24-hour news-feed gone global, the choices seem endless. With so much blame to go around, where does a person begin?
The buck actually stops with the finger pointing in the mirror. It’s the classic case of denial and projection--the software that makes the world-go-round.
An important dynamic to understand in our Prodigal Parable is that the son viewed himself as having sinned for deciding to leave HOME on his little misadventure. This perception caused him to feel guilt, and, as guilt deserves punishment, the punishment must come from somewhere. Obviously the choice would be dad, since he is the one who has been slighted.
The birth of this spin-cycle gives rise to fear, the bedfellow of punishment. How could it not? We have now setup the classic case of guilt projecting punishment onto another, who we then must be feared--a great recipe for blame.
This, of course, gets extrapolated out onto the world stage where everyone harbors different flavors and degrees of guilt, represses and denies as much of the uncomfortable feeling as they can muster, and hurls it onto any unsuspecting recipient they can find.
The answer? Lower the finger.
Take stock of what is at play here. That which you see out there is merely a reflection of what is acknowledged within.
Begin by being kind to yourself, no matter how you are currently feeling. Cutting yourself some slack will greatly improve your day--every day. It is important to remember, the sin/guilt/fear carried around by the prodigal son carried no weight with the father when he returned home. By letting go of your baggage, you will also begin to lighten the load of those around you, thereby withdrawing your support for the blame game.
It’s not really that much fun anyway.
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